The Next Generation

I have tried to live and breathe body positivity for myself for the past year. Learning to love yourself after a lifetime of hating is very tough. Things are starting to get a bit better, but there are still struggles. Learning and living with being kind to yourself is one thing, …

Why This Should Matter To You

Mailbox time! The other day, I received a wonderful message from a college friend, and she agreed to let me share it with you: Hi Bethany. I just wanted to personally thank you for what you are doing. I started following your writing about a month ago. I have always felt like …

Fat People Are Not Your Gym Inspiration

Attention all non-fat gym-goers: I am not your inspiration! Got it? Good. Now let’s all go on with our lives. Wait, you want to know why I say that? All right, let’s break it down. The other day, one of my Facebook friends posted a link to an article about the …

Word Power

Last week, I asked you to weigh in (see what I did there?) on what word you would prefer me to use to describe myself instead of fat. Unfortunately, it wasn’t a very popular post, and only about 20 people voted. Still, I think it’s a good idea to talk …

My Body, My Rules

So I got a new tattoo. It’s a Fat Cat, a design made (locally) famous by my sister. I absolutely love it. The artist (you can find him here) totally nailed what I was going for: It looks like my sis drew it on my back and then took a …

Abandon Perfect

I’m gonna do that thing that they say you shouldn’t do: Start a blog post with a definition. (Who are they, anyway? And are they actually reading my blog? Hi! Can you get me on HuffPo?) Here’s a definition of perfect: Having all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics; …

Choose Your Word

It’s time to have your say! The word fat has proved to be pretty problematic for a lot of people, so I’m curious: What word would you prefer me to use when describing my body? I’m not asking what word you would use to describe yourself, but rather what word …

Your Experience Is Invalid

Do you ever do that thing where you know you shouldn’t look at something, but you do anyway? I’m not just talking about the kind of rubbernecking you might do when you pass an accident on the highway. I’m thinking in particular about the kind of peeking that happens in …

Small Steps for Fatkind

By now I’m guessing you’ve heard about the ad in this year’s Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Issue that has everyone talking. In case you haven’t, here it is: I know I should probably be really excited about this. I mean, it’s a non-thin woman in a bathing suit – a bikini, …

She’s All Fat

Remember that terrible movie from the 90s, She’s All That? You know, the one where the cute little pixie wore overalls and glasses and was pranked by the cool kids because she’s so unattractive, until she puts on a dress and contacts and suddenly she’s super hot? That movie always …